I loooove talking about self love & body positivity so, here we are! I've teamed up with Lime Ricki swimwear to celebrate EVERY body type & answer some of your questions about body positivity!
Q: How can I be more confident about my body?
A: First think about the human body in general. Think about all the amazing things it can do, especially if you're a woman. Make a list even!! Then apply that list to your own body, let those truths feel your body with self love. Some of my favorites are; how my body can fluidly move while I dance, how my body can heal on it's own, & how my body fights off infection to keep me safe. If that's not your style, go buy something you love & OWN IT! Haha!
Q: How do you handle comparing yourself to others?
A: I used to compare myself to all my friends all during my middle school & high school years. I had always danced 10-20 hours a week. I ate really clean (like REALLY clean) & I went to the gym 3-5 times a week. I always felt like a was the fat girl in my friend group when I looked SO GOOD!! It wasn't until my senior year of high school that I STOPPED being my own bully. The only person who was body shaming me, was ME. It took about a year to train my brain, to stop comparing. Now I focus on how I feel. Right now my tummy & butt are softer than they used to be but I am loving how my legs look, so I focus on that. Don't focus on what you don't have!!
Q: How do you stay positive?
A: I try to alway be bettering myself. It helps me stay focused & keeps me moving forward. I love listening to business/marketing podcasts that help me learn about my field of work, I only follow people on social media that are uplifting or inspiring & I use prayer to communicate my struggles to God & try to always say prayers of gratitude throughout the day. Having a good support system helps me too. I always know that I can go to my mom or my husband Juvol when something is bothering me or when I feel down. Even if it's about my image. I can talk to Juvol about my forever changing skin & body. He listens to what I'm saying & always comforts me with unconditional love. He helps me realize my beauty & what true beauty really is. There have also been times in my life where I've seen a therapist & that always helps me. If you feel stuck, find (or hire lol) someone you trust to help you talk things out. If they make you feel even worse about yourself, you're talking to the wrong people.
Q: Do you workout/eat super healthy?
A: With living somewhere new & trying to get into a good routine with Juvol as a newly married couple we haven't been working out as much as we usually do. My focus right now is on him & my job so I just try to eat a healthy carb & protein with every meal, avoid sugar where I can & drink as much water as I feel my body needs. I consider myself to be a healthy person but I am not crazy strict with my routine right now. I know what my macros are & what my calorie intake should be but right now I don't track them. I love working out but sometimes getting to the gym is hard so my goal right now is 2-3 times a week, mainly to help me balance time away from my computer. I love group fitness & when we get back to Utah, Juvol & I will try to hit the gym 4-5 times a week. It's all a balancing act. Live a healthy life, FOR YOURSELF, not for anyone else.
Q: How do I stop missing the skinny old me? I have lupus with lots of meds that keep me chubby.
A: Change your lifestyle, your language & your mindset. Don't aim for the "skinny old you," aim for the "new healthy you." Eat what makes you feel good, move your body when you can, be kind to your mind & spirit. Surround yourself with people that celebrate you & make you feel happy. Whether you struggle with mental health, a skin condition, or a chronic illness, REMEMBER you are not your illness!! Focus on the things you can control!!
Q: Your opinion on Spanx & waist trainers?
A: I LOVE shape wear!! LOVE IT!!!! My mom introduced me to shape wear when I was a sophomore in high school. I wore her pair to my first school dance & was hooked! She bought me my own that same year for prom. I love pressure, weighted blankets, tight jeans, etc. so they have never been uncomfortable to me. I love them for big events or if I'm wearing a tight dress or body suit. Sometimes I'll wear one just for the heck of it if I want a little more belly support that day.
Q: What are your thoughts on flat tummies? And how do you love yourself even without one?
A: Flat tummies? CUTE! Soft tummies? CUTE! Chubby tummies? CUTE! Honestly this one can be hard for me at times because we are so brainwashed from diet culture & supermodel pictures telling us that FLAT tummies are the ONLY cute way to be. Totally wrong!! You just have to be your own biggest hype girl. Put your outfit or swimsuit on, look in the mirror, do a cute dance, tell yourself how beautiful you are & head out the door. All tummies are cute tummies!!
Q: What are the best ways to work with your body when you feel like certain styles don't look good on it?
A: The amazing thing about fashion is there is something for everyone. You don't have to be obsessed with every trend or style. If you dig it, wear it!! When the pearl clip trend came out I was sooo obsessed but felt like I needed to straighten my hair for it to "work" or look good. I played around with it & found a way to wear them with my natural hair & I just have to own it. Some people might thing I look stupid but at the end of the day, if I love it, that's all that matters!!
Q: How do you stay confident if your skin breaks out or isn't cooperating?
A: I always keep in mind that I am my biggest critic. No one notices your break outs, soft spots, or imperfections more than YOU. Remember that you are not your skin. You are SO much more than any perfections you might have. Let the light of Christ (or your own light) fill your soul & it will shine through. As cheesy as that sounds, it is true. If you are only focused on the positive things about yourself & others, that beautiful positivity will be the only thing others will be able to focus on.
Q: How can I appreciate my body?
A: AFFIRMATIONS!! Speak kind words to yourself. Start with little things like, "I love every cell in my body." "I love my legs & all the places they allow me to go." "I love my arms & all the things they allow me to create." Write these "I love..." statements down & keep them places you can see them like on your mirror, on your phone, or on your desk at work.
Q: I don't fit into my clothes anymore. What is the best way to adjust?
A: Size up without focusing on the size. When I came home from serving a church mission in the Caribbean, NONE of my clothes fit me right. I was venting to a friend & she had old clothes that were all in my "new size" so she brought me 3 trash bags full of skirts, dresses & jeans. They were all so cute & they got me excited about fashion & style again. Better yet, they fit me & I looked amazing in them. Go out & buy a few new trendy pieces that you feel excited about. Don't focus on the size. Focus on the style & how you feel. Whatever you wear you will look amazing in. It's all about your mindset.